It's no secret that we live in a society where continual comparison and competition are encouraged. It's all about who's the smartest, fastest, strongest, or funniest from the minute we can walk and talk. Take into account the rise of social media, and we're led to believe that everyone else is having a good time while we're just catching up.
Jealousy isn't always a negative feeling. You're not alone if you become envious in love relationships. When it comes to emotions, jealousy, sometimes known as the green-eyed monster, gets a poor name since it may be dismissed as a "superficial feeling." Nobody loves being jealous but it is an unavoidable feeling that almost all of us will face at some point in our lives.
The jealousy issue isn't that it pops up now and then; it's what it does to us when we don't control it. It may be unsettling to witness what occurs when we let our envy take control of our emotions and affect our perceptions of ourselves and the world around us. That is why, from our interpersonal relationships to our jobs to our personal goals, knowing where our jealous sentiments come from and learning how to cope with jealously in healthy, adaptive ways is critical. We have a few ways that could help you deal with jealousy in a much more effective way.
Admitting that you are envious does not imply that you are a bad person. Suppressing your sentiments of jealousy might lead to a never-ending cycle of denial. You remove another hurdle to getting over problems when you're honest with yourself about where you're at emotionally. When you take a moment to realise how you're feeling, you can remind yourself that your thoughts and feelings are both important and that your emotions do need time and space to resolve.
Fear, loss, rage, greed, grief, betrayal, inadequacy, and humiliation are among the emotions that can lead to jealousy.
If you're feeling jealous, keep in mind that jealousy might be accompanied by a variety of other feelings, although jealousy may be the first one you notice. Spend some time contemplating your feelings. Make a list of how you're feeling. If you're more visual, design a chart or a sketch to show all the many feelings you're experiencing and how they relate to jealousy. Take note of how your body registers your feelings. Fear can cause a lowering or grasping sensation in your chest and stomach, but rage can cause a searing, tight sensation in your arms and head.
It might be difficult to accept that you are experiencing bad emotions, and it can be easy to blame them on someone else. Take a caring look at your own jealousy to avoid this. Consider all of the feelings you're experiencing as a result of your envy and try to come up with a reason for each one. Make a list of any recollections that may have exacerbated your sentiments. For example, you can be afraid of losing your spouse since your past breakup was really traumatic, and you don't want to go through it again. You may feel unworthy of love as a result of a neglected parent or other factors.
Jealousy is fuelled by self-doubt, so if you can develop the practice of praising yourself, it will go a long way toward helping you overcome your resentment. Try jotting down three things you appreciate about yourself, we know it may seem strange at first, but believe us. Add something new every time you have a jealous thought. You'll not only create a comprehensive list of all your greatest qualities, but you'll also master the art of diversion. You may learn to change the way jealousy affects you by linking it with a list of positive qualities about yourself.
You should have faith in the individuals you care about. Rather than distrust, choose trust. Unless you have proof that someone is lying to you, trust them. Don't go looking for proof; instead, trust your loved one's word. Only burying your jealousy and blaming your sentiments on others can harm your relationship.
